08 Jul 2014

Whoever is able to marry should marry

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Marriage is a great blessing from Allah, it is the best of the enjoyments of this world. The rewards of Allah due to marriage starts from this world and continues to the hereafter.

The Quran says: “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect.” [Quran 30:21]

“And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best.” [Quran 16:72]

Some may think that not getting married is an act of worship by means of which one can draw closer to Allah, and will raise their status before Allah. The above verses of the Noble Quran clearly show that in contrast to other religions like Christianity, Hinduism, Buddhism etc which consider monasticism as a great virtue and a means of salvation, Islam considers marriage as one of the most virtuous and approved institutions.

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) declared, “There is no monasticism in Islam.”

Some others say that they may not be able to support their family, i.e. they can’t be wealthy enough to look after a family. But see who helps them out.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are three whom Allaah is bound to help: the mujaahid who strives (in jihad) for the sake of Allaah, the mukaatib (a slave who has made a contract of manumission with his master) who wants to pay off his manumission, and a man who gets married, seeking to remain chaste.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi

The importance of the marriage can be well understood from the following teaching of the Prophet (peace be up on him)

It was narrated that Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: Three people came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) asking about the worship of the Prophet (peace be upon him). When they were told, it was as if they regarded it as too little. They said: Who are we in comparison to the Prophet (peace be upon him)? Allaah has forgiven his past and future sins. One of them said: As for me, I will pray all night forever. Another said: I shall fast all my life and never break my fast. Another said: I shall keep away from women and never get married. The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) came and said: “Are you the ones who said such and such? By Allaah, I am the one who fears Allaah the most among you and I am the most pious, but I fast and I break my fast, I pray and I sleep, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5063) and Muslim (1401)

Marriage helps to guard ones modesty.

“O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” [Al-Bukhari]

Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet (peace be upon him) of Allah. Marrying a pious spouse, helps to guard themselves. They will be able to lower their gaze, and thus shutting the door to shaytaan to lead them astray.

Ibn Mas’ood said: If I only had ten days to live and I knew that I would die at the end of them, and I had any desire to get married, I would get married, for fear of fitnah (temptation).

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “I have not left behind me any fitnah more harmful to men than women.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5096) and Muslim (2741).

Moreover, marriage will be a blessing and a source of reward in the afterlife, if the intention is to have a righteous child, to keep oneself chaste and to protect one’s private parts.

Narrated by Anas ibn Malik : Allah’s Messenger (saws) said, “When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.” [Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096]

In Islam, marriage has high importance to be considered as half of one’s religion. This is because it helps him to abstain from many impermissible acts such as infidelity, homoeroticism, adultery, etc., which ultimately may lead to even more evils. Our Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us that the remaining half of the faith can be saved by Taqwa.

Therefore Marriage is a Sunnah and also half our deen.